Navigating your first therapy appointment

                                                                   "You must go on adventures to find out where you belong." 

                                                                                                                              Sue Fitzmaurice

The feeling of facing the unknown is something all humans experience regularly, yet we often overlook to appreciate the strength needed to navigate its emotions. Whether starting a new job, engaging in a different activity, or encountering a novel situation, uncertainty can evoke feelings of anxiety and fear, or sometimes curiosity and excitement, depending on its significance to us. Entering psychotherapy, while nurturing, can also bring  anxiety, especially during the first session. As therapists, we've been in your shoes, wondering if we'll be understood, cared for, or judged. We've had our own internal dialogues to ease tensions on how we might be perceived, preparing ourselves for every possible scenario.

I personally, understand this. Seeking therapy is among the bravest and most courageous steps you can take. Sharing your vulnerabilities—secrets only you know, things you're not proud of, or wounds still open—with a stranger can be daunting. You might wonder what the therapist will think or say, deepening the uncertainty.It's okay to feel this way. Emotional survival in today's society isn't easy, even those closest to us can hurt us deeply, if we don't protect ourselves. You're so brave for bringing your burdens, weaknesses, and fears to me, a stranger. Take a moment with these feelings; you're incredibly brave. Just breathe—this moment, right here, is enough. You are enough.

Psychotherapy is soul therapy. You present your soul, vulnerable and exposed, to a stranger—not flawless, perhaps in pain, bruised, overweight, or fragile, yet in this beautiful imperfection.  Here, you are safe. No matter how anxious you may feel at our first meeting, we're here for you. Our goal is to listen and help you see yourself as we do: natural, beautiful and enough.

You might be curious about your therapist's approach. Here's a glimpse: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy focuses on identifying problems and finding solutions, equipping you with the tools to face worries head-on. Person-Centered therapists foster self-empathy and acceptance, guiding you to nurture and love yourself unconditionally. Psychodynamic-psychoanalytic therapists explore the connections between conscious and unconscious thoughts, delving deep into understanding yourself. These therapies have evolved, often combining techniques tailored to support you on your journey. The therapist's title or techniques matter less than their commitment to support, heal, and help you understand yourself, freeing you from whatever holds you back.

Wondering what to expect in that first, intimate session with your therapist? The room is typically furnished simply, creating a calming atmosphere. Your therapist awaits warmly and eagerly, genuinely curious about you. They may ask about your background, family, or invite you to introduce yourself. Their role is to listen—not just with ears, but with empathy, emotionally and rationally. All you have to do is to trust them and, most importantly, trust yourself that you can do this. You can ask or say anything that crosses your mind. We are here solely for you. First session is dedicated to your worries, curiosities, all the unknown that you carried to our door. We will talk about your goals,needs oraa type of support that you are asking for.

 Understanding the economic aspect of therapy is also important. Seeking therapy involves a financial commitment, beside the emotional side and this investment in your mental well-being reflects your dedication to personal growth and healing. It acknowledges the value of professional support in navigating life's challenges. Just as physical health requires care and attention, so too does mental health. Investing in therapy is a step towards prioritizing your emotional and psychological well-being, which can have long-term benefits in all aspects of life. It demonstrates resilience and courage to invest in yourself in this way, showing that you recognize the importance of addressing inner struggles and achieving greater fulfillment.

You may question the authenticity and unconditional nature of our care when considering the exchange of money for therapy. As a therapist, I must emphasize that this fee structure ensures we do not usurp your journey or claim the role of hero. Ultimately, it is you who saves, heals, and sustains yourself through the challenges and triumphs of this process. Our role is to safeguard you from harm, provide guidance, and create a safe space for healing. 

While you benefit from therapeutic support, we remain on the sidelines, supporting you without possessing you. Like a parent, we witness your growth and eventual departure from the therapeutic space, a bittersweet process that requires our strength to let go. Our challenge is akin to a personal trial; it demands strength to let you progress independently. This is our path to walk alone, severing ties each time to facilitate your renewal, ensuring we do not become entangled in the process.

 For a therapist, the most meaningful gain is the emotional part, witnessing their patients heal. Witnessing a patient's progress can evoke feelings of fulfillment, satisfaction, and joy, knowing that their guidance and support have made a positive impact. It reinforces their purpose and dedication to their profession, affirming their ability to facilitate meaningful change in someone's life. Moreover, therapists often feel a deep sense of empathy and connection as they witness their patients overcome challenges and achieve personal growth. In a sense this process holds a therapeutic efect on the therapist too. We are not only witnesses to your progress, we also learn from it and become more conscious to ourselves.

Therefore, trust in your ability to navigate this path of self-discovery and transformation. Embrace each session as a step towards understanding and healing, knowing that we walk alongside you with empathy and dedication. Together, we will navigate the complexities of your journey, empowering you to emerge stronger and more connected with yourself. You are not alone in this process; we are here to support you every step of the way.

                                                                                                                                                                              Much love and support, 

                                                                                                                                                                                               Carmen Ifrim

                                                                                                                  _Wellness Psychotherapy Center_